Kids

I have four grandchildren. In September, Jordyn will be six and Riley will be four. And in July, Lexi will be two and baby Kendyll will turn one. They are all similar yet different. Each, even baby Kendyll, has their own personality.

Riley, no doubt driven by some Disney cue, wanted to find a secret beach. I mean, who hasn’t? Yesterday, Amber and Ryan made his little dream come true by driving down past all the big resorts to a secluded quiet beach. They all snorkel dived (as Riley called it). There was quite a variety of fish to be seen. Back at our condo, aunt Ally asked Riley what he had seen while snorkeling. Riley was not saying a word! He had been on a secret beach and you can’t tell what you see on the secret beach!

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The other night as we were enjoying Jo Etta’s chicken spaghetti we went around the table to say what we had liked most about the trip so far. Riley quickly picked up the narrator duties from me. He asked each person around the table, by name, “Cindy, what did you like best?” And so on, down the line, perfectly at ease.

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Luau

Last night we went to a Hawaiian Luau. My sister and I used to save our allowance money all year so we could pay for a babysitter so that we would NOT have to go to the Hawaiian Luau. I guess our youthful negativity was focused on what my sister and I perceived as a long, boring adult night.

As a group, we had reserved the Luau months ago. All were expected to enjoy the evening. As we got closer and closer to Luau time, I started experiencing angst. I did not want to go. I do not know if all the years that Betty and I had spent revolting against the luau was effecting my judgement. I almost did not attend.

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The 12 of us were in our Hawaiian finest, dresses or aloha shirts. It was sunset, along the Pacific, with the people I love most in life. We were greeted with orchid leis, Mai Tais (a strong island rum drink) and a huge buffet of fresh foods.

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So much was going on. While we ate, there were wood carvers, hula dancers and Hawaiian songs.
We saw people moving toward the volcanic rocks. Riley, Ryan and Luke went to check out the excitement. Huge sea turtles were swimming in the rocks right next to the seawall.

Quickly, we progressed into the night’s program. The usual hula stuff, beautiful dancing girls, men (not so beautiful) dancing with the lawn torches, a special dance which included Jordyn and Riley on stage and lots of drums. I would like to point that while the dancing hula girls were fit and lovely, all but one of the men, were not in anyway set to be called for second auditions for “Magic Mike”.

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And the male dancer had a whale tail (am not clear if the rest of the whale existed or not) dipping below his male diaper sarong thing. It was a little disconcerting to see his whale tail disappearing down toward his bingo. And the lead female dancer was sporting some crazy bra top that had no back or straps, yet never moved on her chest no matter how hard she shook her hula skirted bottom. Perhaps it is actually sown to her chest. Believe me we cannot rule that out.

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Yes, it ended up being a delightful night with great entertainment. I wish my sister, dad and mom would have been here to share it with me.

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Vacation Day Two

Day two dawned early with the five hour time change. I saw texts from Amber at 4:23 am and Lauren at 4:27 am. Both girls, wanted to know if I was awake. There is a five hour time difference from Houston. By 4:30 Hawaii time, it was already 9:30 at home. Pretty tough to keep the kids asleep that long.

We were all at Denny’s facing the ocean before 6:30. Somehow, Denny’s in Maui beat Denny’s in Wharton by a long shot. I have never traveled with such a big group before. Between high chairs, booster seats and 12 of us going anywhere took on the logistics of a moon landing. We needed three cars and cell phone coordination to travel to the simplest destination. Factor in, different ages, different tastes (did we want Mexican food, Sushi, a quick hamburger??) and different expectations and it all got pretty complicated.

We headed last night to Lahiana, the original whaling capital of Maui. We ate at Cheeseburgers in Paradise with a view across the seaport. It was a beautiful spot-completely paradise. By the end of dinner, Jordyn clearly wasn’t feeling well. We got in a few photo ops and headed home. Jo’s temp was almost 103 degrees. She is my roommate. I would worriedly awaken and gently touch her skin. The fever, thankfully, broke around 4:00 am. She is better today.
This picture of Kendyll shows her hanging out at dinner.

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When I was a child, traveling with my family, we tended to go the same places each year. When we got to Honolulu or Colorado, we settled in and spent beach time or ranch time. My dad was not interested in sight-seeing. As the families scrambled around today to book excursions para-sailing, snorkeling and helicopter touring I was surprised. Maybe it was the multiple cruises we have taken that is forcing the idea of an activity a day. Or maybe, I am just stuck in my ways and old. I do not want to go fly from a kite high above the ocean or plummet down a zip line through a jungle. My daily life of surviving the Houston freeways, attempting not be stampeded by horses or thrown through a fence have nixed my willingness to want ANY adrenaline rush on my vacation.

I am very happy and content to watch the waves break on the sand and the sun drip down to the horizon. Aloha and thanks for riding along!

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Riley and a much happier Jordyn on our early morning beach walk today. I love this photo.

On vacation

My immediate family consists of my three daughters, Amber, Ally and Lauren. It has expanded over the years to include my daughter’s families as well. So this is my family now:
* Amber’s family-husband Ryan, three year old son Riley and almost two year old daughter Lexi
* Ally’s family-husband Luke, five year old Jordyn and almost one year old Kendyll
* Lauren’s family- boyfriend Blake and his mother Jo Etta
And of course, my momma and I.

My father was with United Airlines. One of the perks was free travel. As a child, we enjoyed many wonderful trips to Hawaii. I have always wanted to go with my family now, as I did so many times with my family then, back to the islands. On long nights when I laid awake, I would envision us all headed across the Pacific. I dreamed so many times of the plane trip, seeing Diamond Head as we approached the Honolulu and walking the beautiful beaches of Maui.

During one of our family vacations, we all made the commitment to save our collective money and make this Hawaiian dream a reality. At the time we had hoped my momma would be with us, but sadly that wasn’t a possibility.

In the end, we decided on a Maui trip to the same condos we vacationed at when my girls were little. Amber and Ally have made trip before but Lauren had never been. It was more economical to make one stop and easier with all the kids to be in a place with kitchens.

After over a year of planning, saving and dreaming, we headed out of our various homes early this morning. The Houston crew met up with Denver crew in Los Angeles as we hurried to make our tight connection. With Ally’s broken arm, my shoulder under repair and four kids under six years we were a bit of a travel nightmare. I think Kendyll fussed for a few thousand miles.

After a delay in LA, as the airspace was closed so Air Force One and the President could land, the five hour trip to the islands was punctuated by occasional cries but was mostly long and uneventful. Ally and Kendyll got In a little nap. Amber’s kids were pretty content with their videos and games.

It was definitely bucket list time, as we made it to the beach in Kihei, Maui to watch the sunset over the Pacific. Aloha from all of us-I can’t tell you how grateful I am to be here with all my family tonight.

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Betty Sue’s Birthday

Betty found the love of her life in high school, Sean.  When you tell your kids high school romances never work out-this was an exception.

Betty found the love of her life, Sean,  in high school.  When you tell your kids high school romances never work out-this was an exception.

My sister would have been 58 years old today

If she had lived had lived past 27

No doubt she would have had children and maybe grandchildren to celebrate with today

If she had lived

It has been so long ago that we lost her to a fiery car wreck

But not too long for me to remember she was always the best big sister, even when I didn’t like her much

We were 21 months apart, we were oceans apart in our temperament and desires

But we grew up together, blessed to see Hawaii sunsets, Colorado dawns and falls in Illinois

She was smarter than I and I was pretty smart

She was more reliable and determined and I can be both

She was better than me in so many ways

I was the athlete and she was more the scholar

My daughter Amber was born weeks before Betty died

She held my daughter for the first time and the last time in January of ’82

I think she broke my mother’s heart when she died

I know my father was never the same

So today I tell her once again that I love her

As I have whispered so many times and in so many dark nights

My life, my children, my grandchildren would have all been better if she had been here to be a part of their lives.

I miss you, Betty Sue

I still do.

Leading the grand entry parade, Betty (on the right) and I on our big, matching flea bitten greys.  It was a wonderful life. Granby, Colorado

Leading the grand entry parade, Betty (on the right) and I on our big, matching flea-bitten greys. It was a wonderful life. Granby, Colorado

Betty, my momma and I, Thanksgiving, 1975  Tecumseh, Oklahoma

Betty, my momma and I, Thanksgiving, 1975             Tecumseh, Oklahoma

A little fun-a Bruno story

It was like drywall mud, so thickly plastered on the big horse, I scrapped it off first before the hose would even permate the mud coating.

It was like drywall mud, so thickly plastered on the big horse, I scrapped it off first before the water from the hose would even permeate the mud coating.

Race horses do not go out in the pasture to frolic in the mud.  If they are covered in muck, it is from running down a wet, filthy back-stretch of race track not from rolling in sludge.  Race horses work and stand in stalls.  Pretty much all they do, not much time is alloted to fun. 

Sunday night after Ally and the kids went home, I headed to the barn to turn out Bruno and Kid for their nightly adventures.  We had storms earlier but the pasture looked pretty dry.  When I glanced at the arena, though, I saw pools of standing water.  The boys usually go out in the arena and small paddock, it provides better footing, better fencing and more security than the other pasture. 

I went and closed off the arena knowing Bruno could easily lose an expensive shoe in the south Texas sucking gumbo/sand/mud combo that occurs when it is wet.  I noted the paddock was wet, but there were plenty of high, dry spots as well. I let the boys out of their stalls. 

Kid proceeded over to the high, dry, gravel driveway and stood regally with the sun gleaming off his copper coat.  Bruno tore out like his tail was on fire.  He disappeared around the back of the barn where the paddock sits low and water accumulates.  I could hear things (mud, water??) hitting the back of the barn.  Then I saw Bruno blaze around the corner of the barn saturated with mud and dripping water.  

Certainly at no time in my ownership of Bruno had he been allowed to wallow in the mud.  Literally for months we kept him high and dry at all costs. 

Mud is dangerous for many reasons to a horse.  They can slip, tear a ligament, cut something, pull something, lose their shoes, and the big issue of getting them clean is always a consideration.  A good horse owner does not allow their horses to run in the mud.  Obviously, I failed yet another important test.  

I couldn’t take it for very long.  Bruno splish-splashed his way to the ever-widening mud hole, pawed with his giant feet, slowly lowered his big ol’body down into the muddy water, threw his legs over one side then the other, coating himself like a colossal shake-n-bake chicken and finally rose majestically (or as majestically as you can rise covered totally in mud) and ran back to the barn to show off his work to me. 

I was actually pretty determined to just let him stay out having his mud hole fun.  I figured he would calm down, the mud would dry providing a pretty good nighttime defense from mosquitoes and flies and Lauren could have a big surprise in the morning.  But then after about the fourth dip in the fountain of mud, I saw blood running down his bad hoof.  I guessed it was time to catch him and see what that was about. 

I tied him up on the same, dry gravel road, Kid was still standing on, clean as a whistle.  I really wanted a contrast picture between clean Kid and pig-pen Bruno but my photo assistant was not available.  As I took the photo above, all I could think about was how nuts this picture was going to make my obsessively clean (anal) daughter.  It was great!! I got Bruno tied up and started the hosing down process. His long mane, which I swore I would cut when we took our first ride, still hung over 15 inches long, looking like world-record length dread locks.  

I had to take a sweat scraper (a flat edged tool) to actually scrape off the mud-like I had a trowel and was going to apply dry-wall mud.  It came off in chunks, landing and splattering all over my hair, face and giant black sling.  Although his foot looked like it was bleeding pretty bad, once I hosed it off, I found just a nick in the skin.  Probably caused by his back shoe when he jumped out of the mud.

Note the blood seeping through the mud, but I let him coat himself a few more times before I stopped his fun mud time!

Note the blood seeping through the mud, but I let him coat himself a few more times before I stopped his fun mud time!

I truly believe it was the happiest ten minutes of Bruno’s whole life.  He was doing everything a horse could want to do, running, bucking, rolling, splashing through mud and water.  He was extremely quiet and content as I spent quite some time cleaning the big boy up.  It took some serious effort to locate four white socks on his legs once again.  I was keeping him tied in the sun, so he would  be dry before returning him to his stall where he would inevitably roll again (although this time in clean shavings). At least if he is dry, the shavings do not stick to him.  

I decided to get out the measuring stick and find out once and for all, how gigantic this guy really was.  People have speculated that Bruno is over 18 hands, but I doubted it.  Standing straight and tall, Bruno measured just shy of 17.2 hands high or about 69 inches but remember this is at his withers (the bottom of neck/ top of his back).  His neck and head soar over me (over most of us).  Today Bruno is 17.2 hh and 1360 pounds.  That is a lot of horse by any standard. I guess if he wants to have a little fun every now and then, we can let him be a horse.  He has certainly earned it.

Weekend Roundup

Lauren and Feather had a horse show on Saturday.  Typically, jumpers go first so it was decided to move Feather back to the jumper ring and move her up in height so she would be tackling the 2’9-3 foot jumps for the first time.  Ally was coming down to stay with the kids so Rick and Dodie could have a break and also so they would be here for mom’s 89th birthday party.

Not clear as to why, but the schedule got reversed at the horse show and suddenly we were waiting most of Saturday to ride.  As it got later and later, we made the decision to stay in the lower division of jumpers as it would go first and we could get home to Ally.

Feather working her way through the course.

Feather working her way through the course.

It turned out to be a good decision, Feather was jumping very well.  She would have been fine at the higher height but I think Lauren was more confident going in at her usual height.  All their rounds were clean, under the allowed time and she placed better each round.  There were 12 or so horses and she picked up a sixth, fifth and fourth without any push on the speed.  Dev told them their last round was the best they have ever ridden.  It was nice.  While waiting for our rounds, we met up with the owner of Feather’s same age, half-sister.  It was great to see the two mares together, both from the stallion, Flagmount’s Freedom.  The sister, Flagmount’s Mischief owned by Robbie Peterson, had been started earlier than Feather  and has come further than Feather.  They ended up tying for Grand Champion of their Open Jumper division and I know Robbie was there working on precision not speed.

Lauren on Flagmount's Irish Freedom and Robbie with Flagmount's Mischief

Lauren on Flagmount’s Irish Freedom and Robbie with Flagmount’s Mischief

It was a busy evening, getting Ally and the girls settled, the horses done and chores finished.  I stayed with baby Kendyll as they all went to town for ice cream.

This morning, we got going early cooking and fixing things up for mom’s 139th birthday (really her 89th).  I appreciate all of you that sent cards and suspect she may have a few more before her actual birthday on Tuesday.  She was so happy to hear from everyone and was humbled that so many cared to send cards!

Momma's many cards, flowers and gifts!

Momma’s many cards, flowers and gifts!

I think she had a great celebration and the only downside is that she asked for Jim over and over.  We told her he just wasn’t feeling up to making the party today but loved her and had sent a card.

mommShe loved her new clothes and couldn’t wait to try them on.

Ally went with Lauren to take her home.  We had quite a rain and I wanted to get the horses back out.  I carried Kendyll to the barn in my good arm with Jordyn along to help out.  I quickly gave up holding Ken and getting the horses.  I sat Kendyll down in the sand and quickly got the horses turned out.  In that short moment of time, Kendyll and Jordyn got covered in sand.  In their hair, mouth, and all over.  So, what is a grandma to do?

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The girls in the farmhouse sink.

What else, stick them in the sink!

Reflections

Papa Rick taking care of Kendyll's breathing treatment.  On top of Ally's broken arm, Ken has bronchitis!  Rick can handle it-he was a Marine!

Papa Rick taking care of Kendyll’s breathing treatment. On top of Ally’s broken arm, Ken has bronchitis! Rick can handle it-he was a Marine!

As the weekend is upon us again, so quickly after the short work week, I want to provide a few updates.  First, a huge thank you to Luke, his mom, Dodie, and his dad, Rick who spent this entire week taking care of my daughter Ally.  I do not know how she would have made it through this first ‘broken arm’ week without their love, support and 24-hour a day help.

Last night at the graduation, both in-laws appeared a little worn.  Taking care of a household, two children, dogs and chores will do that to you.  Lauren and I cared for Kendyll and Jo last weekend and were wiped out.  Rick told me he doesn’t know how Ally does it.  I think it is important for all of us to reflect on another’s life from time to time.  A lot of us, me included, have done the days with small children, jobs, animals and busy lives, but we do forget the constant intensity of it all.  If I choose to not do some chore at the barn tonight, I can do so.  I can come in early and read a great book.  With children, little ones especially, that is not a choice.

The advent of working parents, day care,  and sick kids is not new.  My ex-husband and I struggled with the ‘who stays home with the sick kid today’.  I think it has only gotten worse as clearly most homes rely on two incomes to function.  Ally clearly relies on two arms to function, especially with a baby.  It is all so hard. My daughter Amber’s family has had one illness after another and has no family to call upon in Denver.  I worry that one day, Amber will just collapse under the weight of sleeplessness and responsibilities.

A lot of us grandparents, are happy, eager even, to step in for an overnight visit or a long weekend, but when the days pass on and you are responsible for the full-time care of your grandchildren, it is much more difficult to not want to go home and curl up in your bed.

So, tonight, big thanks to Rick and Dodie who put their lives on hold to run my daughter’s life and care for my grandchildren.  Tomorrow Ally and kids will be here and Rick and Dodie will get some much deserved time off.

Families-we are so lucky to have the thoughtful and caring members that we do.  May God bless you and keep you (and heal Ally’s arm!).