I met with the administration of the nursing home this week. My mother suffered a fracture high in her femur or in pelvis. It is close to impossible to move her without exacting extreme pain from her. I broke my pelvis. Worst pain ever.
The ladies gently suggested moving my mother to hospice care. I am from the oncology world and usually this means a patient with less than six months to live. I understand the definition is a little broader in the nursing home world. She may live awhile. Still not long enough.
What we do know is that her bones are so fragile that they breaking in the hands of her caregivers. She is eating less and less. She is now equipped with a hospital bed which makes moving her when we have to, easier.
The hospice coordinator talked with me Thursday. Amongst the questions she asked was if I had funeral arrangements made. Well, no I don’t. I mean, I know she will be buried in Denver but how that will occur, I don’t know.
I am pretty raw right now. I feel my momma has them fooled. She isn’t dying. But perhaps that is my own denial.
Please keep us in your prayers.
My prayers are with you as you consider the tough options. Unlike hospital gowns, one size doesn’t fit all, every life and every situation is unique. I’m sure you will make the right call. When the time is right, Hospice is a wonderful thing. Give Midge a very gentle hug for me.
Wish I could relieve all of her pain and yours, but I can’t. My prayers are with you.
so sorry Cindy, this is a tough thing to deal with. Your mom is well loved. Jack
I had the privilege of living with my mom the last 2 months of her life (she had a brief illness). We just lost her at the end of January and it is still hard. Do all you can to ease her pain now and remember all the good times. She will always be with you.
I’m so very sorry this is happening. I will keep you all in my prayers. Wish I could do something to help. Love to you both.